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Couples can spend years contemplating whether it’s time to divorce. It doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s not unusual for a married couple to spend years considering whether divorce is the right choice for them. They allow whole decades to go by before finally saying enough is enough. Personal transformation expert Honoree Corder speculates that this is because they’re not paying enough attention to warning signs which are generally present long before one or both parties finally take action.
The uncontested divorce site iDivorceForms (IDF) recently looked at this phenomenon and identified a few tips for how to know when the time is right.
“The rise of gray divorce — or divorce between married couples of 50 years or older who’ve been together a number of years — has taught us that divorce is one of the most procrastinated decisions in the world” an IDF spokesperson said. “For decades one or both parties in the marriage have found reasons why they can’t call it quits. Usually it’s the kids. But one day they wake up and see that the kids are gone and wonder ‘Why am I doing this? Why have I wasted so much time?’”
IDF notes that these couples wouldn’t be wasting time if they acted when one or all of the following signs are present.
Substance or domestic abuse
Substance and domestic abuse are both dire situations that can be prolonged because one spouse feels it’s their obligation to help the other through whatever they’re going through IDF notes. “But this is a very dangerous decision to make for you and your children. If a partner won’t seek help for these issues then you should start planning your escape immediately” the spokesperson said.
Infidelity
If you or your spouse (or both) are cheating then there is an unhealthy rift in the relationship where each of you feel as though you’re not providing for the others’ needs and worse you both feel like you’re the last people you can talk to about it the spokesperson says adding “If you feel no reason to tell your spouse about the affair then you should do the right thing and end the marriage. If you’ve been cheated on — especially multiple times — then you owe yourself better than what you’re getting.”
The feeling that you’re ‘doing it for the kids’
Many couples blame staying in a bad marriage on a false sense of nobility not realizing they owe their children more than the duty of staying in a miserable marriage “just because” the spokesperson notes. “Your kids need to see healthy relationships modeled if they are to have any of their own. If your marriage is beyond repair you’re not fooling them.”
When you spend as little time together as possible
It’s also not unusual for one or both spouses to relish the time they spend apart to the point where they never want to spend time together. They manufacture excuses like having to work late or help family the spokesperson notes. “If you’re actively avoiding each other not because of avoiding a conflict but because you just don’t care for each others’ personalities then it could be time to call it off.”
When you can’t speak without fighting
It’s the opposite of avoiding each other IDF states. “When you can’t spend time together without breaking out into some kind of conflict that too is a sign that you have issues that need to be addressed. These can be worked out if you address them soon enough but too often couples put it off and put it off until being right is their only objective. At that point” the spokesperson explains “the end is near.”
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