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When dissolving a marriage animosity can grow. Here are some tips for handling it.
One of the easiest emotions in the world to feel during a divorce is that of anger and it can lead many otherwise rational human beings to do and say terrible things to one another.
In fact according to attorney David Centeno one of the most common things couples do to get under each others’ skin is hide assets. This can be a contributing factor to divorce and it’s commonly found in two out of three marriages Centeno notes.
Betrayals like these set off a vicious cycle of anger and revenge that can take a divorce from manageable to toxic in no time notes a spokesperson for online divorce reviews site MyDivorceDocuments (MDD).
“Whatever the reason you’re feeling anger towards your spouse you should never let it push you to take childish or damaging actions of your own” the spokesperson explains.
To stave off the vitriol the website recommends taking the following steps when you start to feel like you’re losing control.
Put distance between you and your spouse.
According to the spokesperson when you have distance between your spouse and yourself you have a chance to step out of the back-and-forth and the efforts that your spouse might make to get under your skin and to think rationally about the situation as a whole.
“You can’t control what they do but you can absolutely control your reaction to it” the spokesperson said. “Give yourself space and you’ll find clarity.”
Be aware of how your reaction will affect others.
This point is especially important when you have children MDD notes. “Unfortunately not every married person will put their kids’ needs ahead of their own in the divorce. You have to be the person who breaks the cycle if you don’t want things to escalate. Realize your spouse is trying to get a reaction out of you and then take that power away from him.”
The site points to one Long Island divorce case that has been going on for 15 years this year as an example of what not to do.
“At some point something has to give and it’s always best in the long run to be the mature person who says ‘Enough. This is not a game. I won’t play.’”
Treat the divorce like a business negotiation.
Last but not least MDD believes that spouses who are able to hold off the emotional aspects of divorce and look at it as a business negotiation are far happier in the long run.
“If you really want to let go of the anger try to temporarily put the emotions on hold and look at what you’re doing as a business deal complete with documentation of conversations and interactions” the spokesperson explained. “You do this and your spouse will most likely get serious. And if they don’t their actions will play to your advantage. Either way you win for not allowing rage to build and take over.”
About MyDivorceDocuments: MyDivorceDocuments.com provides free online divorce reviews for couples looking for the simplest and most cost effective method to end their marriage. Site visitors can benefit from learning where to find the best attorney referral service as well as do-it-yourself divorce forms completion services on the web.
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