(MENAFN- Al-Anbaa) Often, we cannot simply remove ourselves from toxic relationships; it could be with a colleague, an in-law, or a parent. When someone in our lives push us down and drain our energy, it can become a daily challenge to stay positive.
Below are 5 strategies to remain positive around negative people we cannot avoid or don't want to remove from our lives.
1 - Don't take it personally.
Many times when people are dealing with difficulties in their lives, those around them become the targets of their unhealthy coping strategies. Their behaviors manifest their insecurities, fears, and anger. The most important thing you can remember is that this is about them, not you, and therefore don't take it personally and exclude yourself from their conscious or unconscious game.
2 - Remain grateful for what is going well.
Make a gratitude list, let people know how thankful you are for their presence, and count your blessings for even small things. Put good energy out into the world and it will come back to you. Gratitude can go a long way in reminding us that life involves more than our immediate surroundings and expands beyond our everyday life.
3 - Remind yourself that everyone has their own journey.
Try to understand rather than judging people. We all have to learn different lessons in life. Perhaps this person has come into your life for a reason. At the same time, this person has to come to hers/his own realization on their own time. Remember that when we adopt a broader view, we're able to get out of our limited thinking.
4 - View this challenge as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
Changing our mindsets and thoughts can transform our attitudes. Slightly altering your perception can also help you imagine what the other person might be experiencing. You may want to ask yourself, what is happening in this person's life that is making them behave this way? We all go through periods of self-doubt and uncertainty. Considering it's difficult to stay positive right after a disappointment or crisis, it's important to cultivate healthy habits while we are feeling good about ourselves. We can take this opportunity to reflect on how we would be affected if we found ourselves in similar circumstances.
5 - Spend time alone and love yourself.
Make time for you to pursue a hobby, travel, take a walk, or meditate. Giving ourselves time to think can create wonders on our psyches and overall attitudes. Many people underestimate the importance of being alone with their thoughts. Even if you spend the beginning of that time being angry toward a person, it is necessary step towards shifting your thinking, so that you can return to positivity. When you allow time to process your thoughts you give yourself the opportunity to come up with insights and solutions. Meditation is one way to gain clarity and develop mindfulness.
6 - Work on yourself through strategic therapy.
One to one therapy can help you learn all the above and more. Learn how to set your boundaries, how to make your own choices, how to set you goals and pursue your own success without being affected by others.
"We can allow our self to be our real self".By: Dr. Maria Grammenou
Clinical Psychologist- Strategic Psychotherapist- Clinical Sexologist
Ph.D in Psychology of Art & Literature
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