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Uncontested divorce service iDivorceForms.com (IDF) realizes that not every divorce is a prime candidate for the do-it-yourself path. However many marriages do not require expensive legal fees especially when the parties involved can still act civil despite the tension and heartache. That’s why the company has put together a new tip sheet for diffusing divorce tension before it consumes both parties. Here’s what they recommend.
Tip One: Choosing Words Carefully.
If you want to keep divorce papers just between you and your spouse and not go to trial then you’ll want to choose your words carefully IDF notes. Explains the representative: “Sit down with pen and paper in hand. Schedule some time to yourself even if you have to go to a coffee shop or stay late at work and pour a glass of wine for moral support. Get away from the conflict area — usually your home — and give yourself the opportunity to say what you need to say. Try to anticipate your spouse’s responses as well in case they try to argue against the divorce. But in all things be rational and well-reasoned.”
Tip Two: Picking The Right Moment.
IDF advises the person wanting to file divorce forms not to spring the desire for a divorce on their spouse before an important event. “The situation must be given adequate time and support before approached” the rep states. “If keeping conflict out of it is your focus don’t drop it on your spouse before a big work presentation or function. Make sure you both have time to talk about the decision and if you have kids keep them out of it. Send them to visit the grandparents or over to a friend’s house.”
Tip Three: Acknowledging Your Spouse’s Feelings.
IDF urges clients not to discount their spouse’s feelings. “Divorce is a highly emotional and oftentimes unexpected experience” the rep said. “Don’t trivialize what they’re feeling. Acknowledge it. But don’t let it shake your resolve if you’ve made up your mind either. You might start with phrases like ‘I know it’s upsetting but our marriage isn’t working and I feel we both deserve better.’”
Tip Four: Refusing To Fire The First Shot.
IDF admits that some spouses will not react in the most rational of manners even if they’re ultimately able to undergo an amicable divorce. “The key is to not fire the first shot” said the representative. “Don’t be hateful — even if you have grown to hate them — and don’t be damaging — even if you do want to hurt them. In a high-conflict divorce it’s impossible to escape unscathed. You will do yourself a favor by not using your divorce as a weapon.” And finally:
Tip Five: Refusing To Fire The Second Shot.
If a spouse lashes out and tries to do something spiteful — in other words if they fire the first shot — IDF urges the targeted spouse not to retaliate. “If there is a second shot fired make sure it’s them doing it” the rep said. “You don’t want them dragging you into their games. By not escalating things you stand a much better chance of amicable divorce. If it escalates anyway though you may not be the best candidate for a do-it-yourself divorce. At this point it’s wise to seek the guidance of an attorney.”
iDivorceForms.com provides affordable divorce solutions for couples in agreement regarding their divorce plans. Clients seeking this method benefit from the assistance of affordable rates and dedicated case managers who work to ensure accuracy each step of the way.
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