Sunday, 22 October 2017 08:00 GMT
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Are you stuck in a friendship thats stuck in the past

(MENAFN - Khaleej Times) What happens when it feels like reminiscing about the past is the only thing thats holding a friendship together Photo: Getty Images

Friendships can be tested when people cling to old memories instead of creating new ones as Mohamad Kadry finds out from personal experience.

What happens when it feels like reminiscing about the past is the only thing that’s holding a friendship together

It’s an issue that everyone will face at some point but dealing with it in the wrong way can often lead to rather uncomfortable situations. While it’s inevitable that people will grow apart as they take to different paths in the world finding less and less in common with a longtime friend can make you question why they’re still in your life.

Building new friendships is integral to everyone’s social well-being especially in a transient society like the UAE. But while some of those connections flourish others simply fade away into obscurity.

Over the last few months I’ve been spending time with a mate who just returned to Dubai after leaving about six years ago. Back then we were still in our early 20s and living a somewhat wilder lifestyle than is the case today. We shared a great deal of our reckless youth together and the memories from that time are epic and irreplaceable.

But things are different now.

We always make an effort to hang out now that he’s back in town probably more than I would with other friends. We still know each other well and always manage to have a great time but I’ve started to notice that our personalities tend to clash in a way that they never did before.

Conversations that once tilted towards the future are now anchored in the past. We still laugh and joke with an appreciation for the two men that we’ve become but had we met today I have to question whether we would get on the way we did back then.

Keeping people in our lives because they remind us of a younger version of ourselves is not a strange concept but at what point do we decide to just move on instead of living in the past

I can’t anticipate where this renewed friendship is headed because I doubt either of us really wants to know. People easily come and go from our lives but as we press forward into adulthood and we find our social circles getting more inclusive the only thing left to do is look ahead.


Are you stuck in a friendship thats stuck in the past