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MENAFN - Khaleej Times - 05/05/2014
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(MENAFN - Khaleej Times) Teenagers running away from home or in some extreme cases committing suicide is a rising concern in the uae.

when 15-year-old ali left home on a weekday both his parents were at work. he decided he would not return because in his opinion “it was not worth it”. there was too much work pressure at school and he had enough of his parents’ constant “bickering”. besides they were hardly at home. his friends wouldn’t understand and there was no one he could confide in.

youngsters ‘missing’ from home

complaints filed with the police regarding missing persons (youngsters) mainly comprise of males aged between 13 and 26 years. according to the police the top most reason for leaving home included dispute with parents.

in sharjah up to 10 complaints have been filed since 2013 by parents said a top police official. but in all the cases youngsters were found within less than 48 hours either with the help of the police or they came back in their own.

police swings into action 24 hours after filing a missing report in the case where children are suspected of running away from homes.

“most kids said that the main reason behind their running away from home is anger after a dispute with parents over failing in studies. they don’t want to be scolded” said sultan al khayal head of awareness section at sharjah police.

but there are also a large number of cases where students are skipping schools during school hours to goof around in residential areas malls and internet cafés.

al khayal said that when a police patrol spots students skipping schools they summon their parents and make them sign an undertaking stating that they would not repeat the act. — afkar abdullah

in short his life was “hell”. the best option he felt was to run away from it all.

he came back home on his own after a few days.

though statistics show only a part of the full picture youngsters leaving home is a rising concern in the uae since it could be a harbinger of something serious including youngsters contemplating suicides say experts.

with the exam pressure round the corner this may and june the issue should sound alarm bells for parents and schools.

in sharjah alone in 2013 and in the first five months of 2014 at least 10 complaints for missing youngsters were lodged with the police — all boys. these boys left home and were either found within 48 hours with the help of the police or returned on their own.

two troubled teenagers committed suicide earlier this year: a teenaged girl who jumped from a high-rise after being scolded by her father and a 16-year-old boy who hanged himself apparently due to exam stress. another 19-year-old attempted suicide last week but survived.

exam season stress?

dr padma raju varrey head of department psychiatry at nmc specialty hospital abu dhabi says: “the number of teenage psychiatric/psychological consultations rises and becomes something (of) an epidemic during the exam season.

‘we lost him to his addictions’

for abu dhabi resident k.p a bulgarian national whose son committed suicide a few years ago each passing day is a torturous reminder of his child’s tragic end.

he says: “my son committed suicide when he was 17. it happened three years ago but the pain of his loss will always remain. burying his/her own child is something that no parent must go through.”

talking about his son’s early years k.p. said: “when he was 15 we went back to bulgaria. he grew up in the uae till he turned 11 and thought of it as home. but then he kept saying he found life stifling. he said that his circle of friends was very superficial.”

“by the time we went back to bulgaria we found out that he had started taking drugs and despite all our efforts to help him out of the habit we lost him to his addictions.”

“one of the warning signs that we failed to notice was the behaviour of our son. he had started losing interest in things he usually loved doing.”

“it is a very stressful period for them” says dr varrey who has been practicing psychiatry for 16 years.

“as a hospital we work on different age groups. teenagers however from my observation have a tendency for seasonal consultations.”

he however adds that the psychological disposition varies from child to child. “it is not only school stress that affects the child but it can be children belonging to a dysfunctional family. in majority of families in the uae both parents are working and they have no support from extended family like grandparents due to which they are not able to share their problems.”

other reasons could be peer pressure children coming from conservative families being exposed to a modern lifestyle and bullying. dr varrey says that majority of the hospital’s teenaged psychiatric patients are expatriates.

so is it true that today’s teenagers take stress head on? this is a question that warrants a lot of debate says dr elizabeth kurian psychiatrist aster medical centre sharjah. “being able to take stress depends on one’s temperament; coping skills and life experices ... some messages that children hear from adults like ‘you have to be the best’ make them grow up with the belief that if they are not in the top category they are good for nothing.

“children are not taught how to face failure gracefully and to accept ups and downs in life.”

incompetent parenting

incompetent parenting and problems at home like divorce separation or drug abuse by a parent are to be blamed in some instances says dr kurian.

teenagers are like ‘birds in a cage’

for parents handling a troubled teenager is equally stressful. romanian national m.n. residing in abu dhabi who has a 17-year-old son said: “i feel that all teenagers face problems at this age.”

“these problems may arise from child-parent relation and hormonal imbalances at this age. metaphorically speaking a lot of teenagers here are like ‘birds in a cage’.

m.n. added: “life here is very fast paced and most kids find it very difficult to make friends. they find it hard to cope with the fast changing society.” she added that participating in sports activities is a great way to engage teenagers.

“the child might feel their parents don’t care about them. sometimes children are unable to express themselves. running away may be a method of escaping punishments and consequences.”

the adolescent time period is associated with intense psychological changes and hence they are prone to psychological problems.

dr varrey adds: “in most severe cases like suicides parents are ignorant and several of the accidents that occur are ones that could’ve been prevented.”

“definite signs do exist like for example if a usually active social child suddenly turns moody and reserved then parents can try and probe into what is wrong with the child.”

overexpectations and peer pressure

according to dr kurian in many families parameters of success are concentrated heavily on academics.

“children are under the impression that if they don’t do well in academics their life is hopeless. some parents and teachers fail to recognise other talents in the child. children are appreciated only if they excel in studies” she says.

“children yearn for love and attention. they try to do their best but when it is not appreciated they equate it to their parents or teachers not loving them as they are failures” adds dr kurian.

advice to parents

talk to your teenagers. allow them to talk to you

listen to them with keen interest

encourage them to pursue hobbies to relax and unwind

take out time for your children

don’t have unreasonable expectations from your children as it makes them feel their parents do not care

encourage children to talk and vent their feelings

teach them to incorporate humour into their lives and learn to laugh at themselves

“the goals in life projected to children are materialistic goals like a high-income job a top end car and a luxurious life. ‘i want all things better than my peers’ is a common feeling. religion-based principles and spiritual goals no longer seem relevant.

“it is a well-known fact that an optimal level of stress is motivating and helps one to stay alert.”

parenting experts

aamnah husain a parenting expert recently shared the reasons behind child-related stress at a talk hosted in oasis centre by fun city. “there is an intense focus on the future which ultimately leads to stress in children. constantly having a future orientation can cause depression anxiety and stress.

“children themselves don’t know what bothers them sometimes.”

a lack of interest from some parents to help their children overcome anxiety makes matters worse. “life is really busy now. some of the parents just want to put their kids in a class switch on the television or give them an ipad. extreme focus on academics also pressurises kids.”

school counseling – does it help?

after homes schools should be a point where symptoms of a troubled teens can be recognised. but is that widely applicable in the uae?

marian rossiter head of secondary school at raha international school in abu dhabim says “students sometimes use the counsellor as a bridge between the school and their family.

“we have several layers of support and all students have an advisory teacher whom they see every morning. they are the first ones to usually notice any difference in a student’s behaviour.”

students who undergo stress are advised to speak and share their anxiousness with someone they trust. it is one of the most effective ways of lowering anxiousness.

“if you are stressed you need to speak to somebody. the more stressed you become the more ineffective your body becomes in dealing with it. the first step for a student to get help is to talk to somebody about it.

“sometimes parental expectations are very high which puts students under a huge amount of pressure. this requires the school to work with the parents and talk to them about their expectations.”

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